When I saw her call, I didn’t take it as a mistake. I took it as destiny – Groom
WiGRadio Team: You are welcome sir and ma @Mr. Temitope Adeleye and Miss. Adeshewa Adeboye.
Mr. Temitope Adeleye- Thank you, we are glad to be here.
WiGRadio Team: Can we meet you sir and ma?
Mr Temitope Adeleye: I am Temitope Ibukun Adeleye. A content writer, social media manager, professional photographer and host of other things I can lay my hands on.
Miss Adeshewa: I’m Adeboye Adeshewa , I am from Kwara state. An Educationist and an Entrepreneur.
WiGRadio Team: We know you are also a believer, please tell us about your salvation experience.
Mr. Temitope Adeleye: Oh! That’s has been a wonderful and smooth ride. Got saved and came to the knowledge of Christ while in secondary school 2009. Afterwards there were ups and down though, but got rededicated 2014 and since then, glory be to God.
Miss Adeshewa: I got born again in the Year 2010 at Deeper life December retreat after my father in the lord’s ministration last message of that day … (although I have been a chorister in church) Then, I was in youth church but that night I understood it’s not by being a chorister in church but personal relationship with God. You knowing Him, and that was how I gave my life to Christ… though there has been ups and downs but God has been faithful and keeping me. It’s been a great ride with Him.
WiGRadio Team: Getting down to the real business of the day. Please share with us how you met your wife to be sir.
WiGRadio Team: And how did you know she is the one? Was it a case of thus saith the Lord “Brother Temitope, this is your wife”?
Mr. Temitope Adeleye: Are you all ready for this gist sha.
WiGRadio Team: Lol…fully ready, Sir.
Mr. Temitope Adeleye: I happened to be on a group with my Adeshewa. The name of the group is called MSS (Matured Sacred Singles) It’s a single Christian group though created for fellowship and other things. Though, being a participant in the same group for years and never crossing the path or chat it’s still feels like a movie though.
WiGRadio Team: So how did your eyes open that there was a fish to be caught in the group.
Mr. Temitope Adeleye: Okay, She had her birthday, 31st August, we all wished her in the group, she came back on the 4th sept to thank the group for wishing her and the interesting thing happened. (Drumroll…) So, instead of thanking the group for the wishes, she mistakenly dialed my number. Na so miracle no dey taya Jesus o. I wasn’t online so I missed her called then I came online later on and she apologised that it was a mistake that she wanted to chat in the group and I said. Something.
(So, I was like mistake bawo Who’s is this, all this was going through my mind.) So I checked her contact info and I was like oh! it seems this person is in the same group with me so I replied her back and said Mistake keh or destiny. Let somebody say “My eyes are opened” So she smiled and from there we became friends, just normal chat and that was how I got to know her.
Mr. Temitope Adeleye: And to the second part here …How I got to know she’s the one -Then, I was still serving my father’s land , just few month to go and I was seeking the face of the lord in prayers concerning life after service, career path, martial area and all, and she pop up. Then I got a conviction, confirmations, friendship grew and we began to talk, our goals aligned, our vision about life and all aligned. And from there I knew she’s the mother of my unborn triplets.
WiGRadio Team: How did she receive your proposal? Was there any form of reluctance from her end?
Mr. Temitope Adeleye: Because of the denomination she attended, there are procedures to things over there and I followed it. I will share the steps. The first step I took was to travel down to the state she was staying, that’s in Ilorin. I was in Abeokuta so I traveled down to Ilorin, I went straight to the district Marriage Committee (MC) of the church she attends and made my intention known to them first even before her as the denomination procedure takes. That’s Deeper Life Church. Let me tell you this, before I traveled down to Ilorin, I first went to see the Senior pastor of all Deeper life in Ogun state Abeokuta, on getting there, I was told my case is different that it can’t be solved in Abeokuta, Ogun state that I have to travel to see the MC of the Church she attended. So I found myself in Ilorin. First thing I was told was that I should first go and do medical tests for them to even allow me talk to her to talk of proposing. I went for the medical tests, they told her too, she did hers. The MC went behind to get the medical reports, compare and contrast and see that we’re medically fit and okay to be together. That was the time I was allow to see her and propose to her.
WiGRadio Team: Have you had any major challenges during courtship that could have made you both go your separate ways?
Mr. Temitope Adeleye: If I tell you our journey thus so far is a smooth one then I will be a big liar, it has been so rough. The devil tried all he could. At a time we both almost gave up on each other, but the greater picture ahead of us kept us standing tall together so yes, there times we almost fell apart. Misunderstanding, arguments. And I learnt that you can’t always be right in a relationship, you have to learn how to manage each other and since then, we do understand each other,we disagree to agree and things work out fine.
WiGRadio Team: The Bible says a marriage is honourable when the bed is undefiled, how have you been able to keep the necessary boundary in your relationship sir?
Mr. Temitope Adeleye: Apart from us being miles away God has been helping us though. We practically practiced long, very long distance relationship.
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WiGRadio Team: Wow, long-distance relationship. How did you manage communication and create bond in this situation?
Mr. Temitope Adeleye: We only saw each other I think just 6times leading to this marriage cos I have to travel down to Ilorin and the fuel hike and so on contributed to it, and that’s one however the communication is daily back to back! We both used a registered SIM that allows us to talk for hours in a month for just a token of N500 per month. So we have unlimited time to call each other daily.
WiGRadio Team: How about times she felt down, how were you able to detect her mood and pacify her mood?
Mr. Temitope Adeleye: Ha my babe can form strong babe o but when something is bothering her, I go know. God has been helping sha.
WiGRadio Team: Are there any noticed disadvantage of a long distance relationship in your own case, sir.
Mr. Temitope Adeleye: Omo, not that deep. I won’t call it a disadvantage though, it actually helped us. The communication is there just that there might be where a face to face issues might arise but because of the distance it won’t work.
WiGRadio Team: Okay. Moving forward, what was the reception like from her parents? Was there any resistance from any of her relatives? Or you were liked and accepted by all on your first meeting?
Mr. Temitope Adeleye: As in eeee, that’s still a wonder to me. It was as if I have been known to them, it was just smooth and effortless. Them be better parent in-law. No issues at all!
WiGRadio Team: Let’s talk about the different denominational background.
Mr. Temitope Adeleye: Omo! It was tough on me o! Let me say! Other denominations coming to married from their denomination is a tough ride, different meetings, screening and all. But at the end, we’re here.
WiGRadio Team: It’s just three days to your wedding, Sir. What part of your coming together (marriage) do you look forward to the most?
Mr. Temitope Adeleye: Ha sister! don’t go that side oo! But let me say, all aspects. It’s a new league, a new water to be tested, a new ground to walk through. So I am open to everything and all things I see.
WiGRadio Team: What’s your advice on long distance relationships. Is it effective?
Mr. Temitope Adeleye: For long-distance relationship, with determination and strong will, you will get through and practice it well. It helped in abstinence, it helps to miss each other and crave for each other when you eventually meet. It does a lot good if the communication is there, and so on. My advice is if you can do it, then why not. If you know you won’t be able to cope, please don’t do it so you won’t find yourself being unfairly faithful to each other. But if you can ,then go for it.
WiGRadio Team: On a last note, what would you advise a single brother looking to get married very soon to look out for as he prepares to embark on this same journey?
Mr. Temitope Adeleye: Chai! Omo! So this question go still reach people like us. Miracle no dey taya Jesus o.
Mr. Temitope Adeleye: My advice is that as a single person,don’t be too rigid, be flexible, trust process, trust God and involved him in all your affairs. These days I have been challenging my married friends that they didn’t share update with me that it would be this stressful, but I learnt that it’s inevitable, so I am just enjoying the process..Meeting upon meeting, family greetings and all waka waka about just to put things right but in the end it’s worth it.
WiGRadio Team: And I guess it is at this stage we will call this interview a wrap. It has really been fun time with you sir and ma. Thank you for your time and thank you for sharing with us.
Me. Temitope Adeleye: You’re welcome, ma’am. Thank you for having me on this platform. Mo dupe.
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WiGRadio Team: We look forward to celebrating your big day with you sir and ma.
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I was over melted when i sew there pictures. I have no other things to say than congratulations topeonipoto and pro has we all called you sir