Our gracious Father, we are grateful tonight for this grand opportunity we have to be built up.
We ask, Lord, that you give our facilitator utterance, that your word have free course over our hearts, and that our minds are ultimately renewed along the lines of what you teach us tonight.
In Jesus’ powerful name we have prayed, Amen!
I will have us know that the greatest thing anyone can enjoy is the support of a spouse
And the greatest disappointment anyone can have is lack of trust from a spouse
Anyone may not believe in your dreams and visions, it must never be your spouse
Let’s start from here.
Purpose is simply our destiny. The reason for being. The reason for being born.
The reason for growth.
The reason for going to school.
The reason for reading the course you read.
The reason for each day.
The reason for waking up.
The reason for every potential.
The reason for marriage…
The reasons for every friendship.
The reason for being where you are.
The reason for reading this thing I’m writing.
Vision is the picture revealed of the fulfillment of our purposes.
Success is purpose fulfilled.
Happiness isn’t purpose, it may be the gladness of a fool… If it ends up in lack of vision fulfillment. There are four things that constitutes destiny.
They form the pillars of a destiny that will be fulfilled.
Your walk with God is one.
Two is your place in the body of Christ… Local church, friends, mentors, protégés etc.
Three, is your career and calling.
The fourth is your marriage and home.
Each one must be well strengthened by the Holy Spirit.
You can’t choose without the Holy spirit.
You can’t manage any without the Holy Spirit.
Because it’s the Holy Spirit who has the blueprint
You can’t choose any out of your fancy..
If one of the pillars isn’t in place properly, that destiny will have issues…
To fulfil purpose these four must be intact…
Project 1: Now, name the four for me, the way you understand it… Just leave your answer in the comment box below, do this project…just type and post…
One of them is Marriage.
Now it doesn’t mean you’ll get married or not.
It means you do the will of God on that subject.
If you get married when you shouldn’t, it will cause problems for the fulfillment of your destiny.
If don’t get married when you should, it’ll get you into trouble in destiny.
When you don’t marry as at the time due or to the right person… It will cause trouble.
If you got all that right but you don’t manage your home properly it will cause you trouble too.
Our topic tonight is about proper management of marriage and the home relationship.
See, man was made to till the ground.
Genesis 2:5 Now no shrub of the field had yet appeared on the earth, nor had any plant of the field sprouted; for the LORD God had not yet sent rain upon the earth, and there was no man to cultivate the ground.
6 But springs welled up from the earth and watered the whole surface of the ground.
7Then the LORD God formed man from the dust of the ground and breathed the breath of life into his nostrils, and the man became a living being.
Man was formed to complete God’s work on the earth.
He was made to cultivate the earth.
And what a great job he has done since then. He was made and blessed to replenish the earth.
We are here for a purpose.
But God had to split the man to two. Male and female.
Husband and wife.
Adam and Eve.
Marriage is all about bringing Eve back to Adam.
Now understand that it’s not possible to have double vision.
The husband and his wife can’t have two purposes… If truly they follow the process of the original creation.
Which is fundamental. It may mean that the two had shared the purpose from the foundation of the earth.
Each coming to the world with a part of the vision to be merged in marriage to the original one.
When vision is double… We have a di-vision.
If the vision can’t merge, then there is a problem.
16“Search from the book of the Lord, and read:
Not one of these shall fail;
Not one shall lack her mate.
For My mouth has commanded it, and His Spirit has gathered them. Isaiah 34.
Don’t forget that we are here to do the will of God according to the volume written concerning each of us.
I’m sure that the volume written concerning us includes our reason for being here and those who will play significant role in our lives.
And our spouses must show in that book.
And the roles they must play.
I know it’s a major debate lately if God actually wrote a particular person to be someone’s spouse.
Don’t joke about it, He did.
He can rewrite the program but the original will contain it.
7Then I returned, and I saw vanity under the sun:
8There is one alone, without companion:
He has neither son nor brother.
Yet there is no end to all his labors,
Nor is his eye satisfied with riches.
But he never asks,
“For whom do I toil and deprive myself of good?”
This also is vanity and a [c]grave misfortune.
9Two are better than one,
Because they have a good reward for their labor.
10For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.
But woe to him who is alone when he falls,
For he has no one to help him up.
11Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm;
But how can one be warm alone?
12Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him.
And a threefold cord is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastics 4.
So we see that achieving purpose requires the merging of your two purposes to one.
One that may have diverse departments under one.
There’s nothing like that’s your purpose and this is mine.
I think I should let you know that work is the pursuit of purpose.
Pursuit of purpose is what’s called work.
The expression of your pursuit is seen in what you do.
If what you do isn’t directly or indirectly producing the reason for your being then you are wasting your life.
That’s why we say, you can have a job and not be working, even if you are earning.
Work is what God created Adam for…
Work is what God did for 6 days before resting on the 7th.
But who pays Him for that work.
God is jobless but He is ever at work.
Because no one pays him a salary.
Today, majority work for salaries.
They are like trees that’s always looking for water, nutrients and for sunlight… Not minding to bear fruit.
The fruits we bear is in purpose.
So, I need to discover my spouses purposes in life.
I need to see how we can merge what we thought were two purposes into one.
We need to deploy our potentials and opportunities towards accomplishing it.
It’s now only one… Access bank plus Diamond bank
We look at our potentials and gifts and we put them to work…
We look at our opportunities and we use them for this one goal.
We harness our strengths to maximise them above our weaknesses to achieve success.
We rally our resources to make it work.
We define departments of the same vision and and we organise how we would run to make it happen.
It requires faith and commitment.
Do you believe in your spouse’s vision?
You don’t impose on another rather you believe and trust.
The greatest pain you can have is to have a spouse who does not believe in you.
Or you have a spouse who competes with you.
We are to complement not to compete.
If we are one, we don’t compete.
We are a team.
I am standing for you and you are standing for me.
You must recognize that God brought you together to achieve a bigger wave… One chases 1000… Two chases 10,000.
But that’s if they aren’t chasing each other… In that case… Each chase 1 not even 10 or 1000.
1. Understand that you are one.
2. Be ready to put down all you believe is your purpose.
3. Be ready to see both purposes as one.
4. Understand that you are help qualified, help meet, suitable for one another.
5. Be ready to run together whatever the role your potential, gifts and graces permit you to play.
6. Have faith and be ready to trust.
7. Commit all you’ve got with faith without grumbling.
8. Be ready to work… Pursue the purpose with all you’ve got… It’s your life.
9. Be ready to wait patiently for the fruit of your labour
10. When the rewards come remember it’s for both of you…
This is where agreement is key…
Don’t forget that whatever role you are to play, The husband has a derived authority from God and would be held responsible for a lot of things… So the man should be ready to do all to put things in place for the other person to find fulfilment.
May God help us in Jesus name.
Do you have questions and contribution? Kindly drop it down and it will be attended to.
Project 2: Type and post in the comment box the one cogent lesson you learnt from this teaching.